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This is NOT about the safety of women and girls

There has been a total uproar over Target’s decision to make their bathrooms a safe place for transgender folks. I’ve heard more angry comments over the Target decision than over HB2 which was astonishing to me. The biggest concern raised in both cases over the bathroom bills is the safety of women and girls and the risk of cisgender men putting on a dress and coming into the bathroom to wage their assault.

If we were really worried about the safety of women and girls in bathrooms then we’d be introducing legislature to keep convicted sex offenders out of public bathrooms. We’d stop victim shaming women for getting assaulted and raped. We’d stop making women pay for rape kits in the hospital. We’d take women seriously when they say they’ve been assaulted. We’d start hearing our young girls when they share stories of assault and objectification. We’d never let a Republican State Representative, who is a threat to women, keep his job and just move him to a different building. The biggest story of the night wouldn’t be Target’s bathroom policy, it would be that the longest standing Speaker of the House molested boys.

This is NOT NOT NOT about the safety of women and girls. It is about lawmakers and others being uncomfortable around transgender individuals. Where do they think transgender individuals have been using the bathroom all these years? We’ve been sharing bathrooms with trans folks forever. 

Criminals are not waiting for the opportunity to put on a dress to go assault someone. They don’t need to wait for that opportunity. They know that women are unlikely to share the assault because they won’t be believed, they’ll be made to feel like they brought it on by what they wore or how they acted or how much alcohol they consumed, or they’ll be humiliated in front of others by having to repeat their story over and over as if they were the criminal. We have a LONG WAY TO GO to protect women and girls from cisgender men who don’t know how to behave but keeping transgender people from the bathroom is about the most ridiculous way to fix this problem that I’ve ever heard.